Gents, I’d like to share some experience I’ve had over the past 10 years in the dating game with you. Hopefully you can use this information immediately to get better results out there in the field. Next time you go out, understand the effects of being desperate.
I’ll just keep it as real as possible in this post and say that if you aren’t currently out there having sex with women, you may come off as desperate when trying to approach them.
You may have seen a lot of women recently talking about how “dudes be thirsty out there” or how “the thirst is real”. Women are repelled by “thirsty” dudes. There’s a very logical reason for this.
Question is, how do you go from not having sex with women to having sex with them if they are repelled by your desperate behavior of going up to them with the intention of getting sex?
Answer: Approach them without any expectation or care.
The power of pre-selection
Women seem to be more attracted to men who are already drawing interest from other women. The reason for this is that if other women are giving some guy attention, there must be something about that guy to warrant attention.
Speaking as a true Broscientist, I can say with absolute certainty that woman can smell this on a man. They can easily pick up the worth of a guy in a snapshot of time by picking up certain subconscious cues the guy is giving off either through his body language or the way he says stuff.
They can tell if a dude is wanted by other women just by the way he acts. If he is a pre-selected male, they’ll respond by giving attention themselves. The opposite of a pre-selected male is a desperate male. If you are acting desperate, they’ll be able to tell. As such, they’ll act by not giving you attention.
First thing to do is correct how you’re going about things. A lot of dudes out there, myself included in the past, have subconsciously engaged with women trying to hide their true intentions (banging them) with the hope that they don’t get shot down. This is the wrong way to go about it because you are coming from a desperate position.
Think about it for a second, would a guy who has attention from multiple different women give a shit about one specific woman shooting him down if he has multiple other options?
The right way to go about it is to be direct as hell, signal your intent through your body language, and just say what you’re thinking. This signals that you have a level of boldness that most dudes don’t have. Most guys don’t have the boldness to say what they are feeling let alone go up and talk in the first place. Guys with boldness are making it clear that they don’t care about rejection. In her mind, if you don’t care about rejection you most likely have other options.
In the last year I’ve had a great deal of success with direct game, and when I say direct, I mean direct as hell. I’m not advocating saying “hey want to have sex?” as that’s a bit too extreme. I’m advocating more along the lines of “Hey I noticed you over there and thought you were cute…”
Not only am I direct in what I’m saying, but more importantly I’m direct in how I’m saying it. I’ll just walk over, make eye contact, grab an arm and say it with strength. This is arguably more important. I’m not walking over sheepishly, darting my eyes around, and saying, “excuse me ma’am….” If I could describe the mindset in one word it would be intense.
Have sex with women to see what I’m talking about
If you haven’t gotten laid in a while or ever for that matter, you’re not going to understand the power of pre-selection. Once you cross that hurdle, you’ll start having more success than ever. The reason for this is that after having sex with a woman you’ll have a considerable amount more charisma, dick respect, and moxie. All these factors come together in a perfect storm to make you a lot less desperate.
Recently I went out with a woman, and went back to her place and had sex with her. She was falling asleep afterwards so I excused myself and left. Because I’m a crackhead who stays up really late, I took the opportunity to meet up with a couple friends that were still out at a bar.
It was around 12:30, so this gave me around an hour before the bar closed. Basking in my post sex glow, I was walking around with incredible swagger that night. I didn’t give a damn about picking up any women, I was just walking around having conversations with more freedom than I’ve had in a while. As a result I was noticing a considerable more amount of attention I was receiving from the females. Theories I had floating around in my head were being confirmed right in front of me.
Treat game like an actual game
I’m pretty sure that the whole world is an actual video game that we’re stuck in, and I’m going to treat it as such. It’s funny to me that talking to women and picking up chicks is described as game, but people treat it as life and death.
It’s a damn game people, have fun with it! You’ve played video games before, so I’ll describe it in video game terms.
- Get your attribute points up by staying on target and obtaining balance. Even if your looks aren’t male model level, you can strengthen your character by having greater style, business, money, etc. Strengthen all areas you have control over to maximize potential.
- Be direct with your intentions and don’t come off desperate. You can fake it if you have to, but just don’t care as much about picking up chicks in your interactions and paradoxically you’ll have more success.
- Have more sex with the women you are being direct with and let the results compound into more success.
- Repeat cycle.
I’ve had a lot more success recently when I stopped caring about results. The kids call this outcome independence. Outcome independence is important because it signals that you have other shit going on. This is the opposite of desperate.
Go out this weekend and remember this is a game. Make it into a game by being direct as hell and laughing at the results.
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