Understand that when you go on the path to freedom in your life, a bit of Chaos comes with the territory. To achieve an Ordered peaceful life, first you must destroy you old way of thinking, and perhaps your whole old life. Introduce a little Chaos.
Embrace Chaos instead of fighting it, and life becomes much easier.
I know it’s incredibly scary to create upheaval in your life and basically start over, but damn is it worth it if you make it through to the other side without quitting. The fact is that you will have to erase many ideas and thought patterns you once had in order to achieve your freedom.
Most people in America grow up going to school with a clear path outlined in front of them. They are given a path, so when it comes time eventually to find your own path, most people are utterly confused as to what to do.
It annoys the fuck out of me when I see people posting about going back to school. Most of the time they are only doing that because they don’t know what to do. Education in America is so fucked, and is your enemy.
Embrace the fuck out of the fact that chaos will surround you now. You don’t know what to do, so you have to choose something to do, and do it. Who cares about the outcome, don’t even think about it, or else you may end up not doing it.
Start doing chaotic things to get a feel for it.
Doing something like quitting your bullshit job or opening random people to conversation can seem like really big moves. A good way to build up a resistance to your fear is to take baby steps. Start doing these activities for a week and you will find it’s easier to stare down the void.
Go on a walk with no destination in mind. Just get the fuck out of your house and go walking somewhere. This accomplishes a few things. You will be able to clear your mind and actually focus on what you want to do. Notice I said no destination in mind, that’s because the point of this exercise is to just do something without a specific outcome. Make sure to give yourself at least an hour to accomplish this.
Go out and open at least 12 people of the opposite sex in conversation. Don’t focus on getting their number or trying to get a date with them. Just open them without a specific outcome in mind in order to see how easy it is. Notice that there aren’t any consequences to doing this. Weird shit happens when you start doing this more often. Take enjoyment in the process and the outcomes take care of themselves.
Go out to a bar or club…by yourself. If you have never done this before, it’s chaotic as hell. What ends up happening is one of two things. You either sit at the bar and have drinks all night, or you are forced to talk to some random people. Choose the latter! Going out by yourself forces you to engage with others. You don’t have the crutch of your friends to hang out and talk with, you have to talk to others or else be that guy who is by themselves at the bar. Don’t be that guy.
Camp outside, preferably in the wilderness somewhere. If you start feeling like every day is like a broken record, change it up and sleep outside. A lot of random stuff can happen when you sleep outside like wild animals coming up to your tent. The point is that it’s a very easy way to inject a little chaos into your life. Give it a go.
Do these activities every day for a week and you’ll find that chaos isn’t that bad. It stings a little bit to leave your comfort zone and institute changes, but the more you get used to change, the easier a pill it is to swallow.