Here at Striving for Freedom we are seeking freedom in all areas of our lives. I have broken it down before into 3 sections of health, wealth, and relationships. However, it’s important to go about achieving freedom in these areas in a balanced manner.
The problem is when you start to get out of whack in that balance and start favoring one area over the others.
I’d argue that health is your most important thing in your life because without your health your potential quality of life goes way down. In striving to be more free in this area, people sometimes go off the rails and become obsessed with health. One example of someone who is completely focused on health to the detriment of his other areas is Paul from “Bigger, Faster, Stronger”.
Paul achieved success early on by getting in the movie “Over the Top” but didn’t have any acting success since then. This video shows that Paul has an inspirational attitude of never quitting, which is admirable, but one has to wonder why it is that he’s living in a van? It can’t take that long to work out every day so why he doesn’t just spend the rest of his day working so he can get the other areas of his life handled?
Having wealth is extremely important if you want to become free. We can talk about art and doing things for the right reasons, but at the end of the day if you are broke you won’t be able to eat anything. As a result, people go off and make wealth their top priority in life and forget the rest of their life.
In interviews with the real Jordan Belfort, he claims that the drug scenes in this movie are accurate. There’s no possible way doing all of those drugs are healthy and he most likely went nuts during that time of his life.
Jordan Belfort does have some really great information on motivation, getting shit done, and selling techniques. However as you can see, making money number 1 in your life can make you go full degenerate.
Being able to forge relationships with other people is important. Human beings are social creatures. When people commit heinous crimes, the state punishes us by limiting our contact with others. Let that sink in for a minute.
Being able to have the social freedom to talk to people and attract the opposite sex is a powerful motivator in our lives. When you can’t do this, it makes people insane. In the mid 2000’s, people found out there was a market for this and the pick up artist industry was formed. However, because any rando on the street can edit videos and use marketing to convince people he’s a pick up artist, a score of people looking to make a quick buck entered the space.
Their sole mission was going out and hitting on women. They turned something that takes seconds into a huge convoluted system of opening a woman til getting her in bed. The reason for this is because “just going up and saying hello” doesn’t sell courses. People everywhere bought into this and started abandoning their lives just to pick up women all day.
For example, check out this article.
“Of course the instructors have publicly mentioned that its a “numbers game” – Tyler and especially Jeffy. Jeffy cites “Evil Stifler” his “natural friend” who just approaches everywhere and escalates on girls. Apparently he had fucked over 600 girls. I believe this because the guy apparently doesn’t do anything else besides hitting on girls.”
The funny thing about PUA material is that there is a lot of good advice for guys. Unfortunately they then needlessly overcomplicate the message and the result is guys acting goofy as hell, trying to hit on girls all day, and buying $1000 seminars.
Living a balanced life is the goal to strive for, but no one said it was going to be easy. If you find yourself straying from one area or another for too long, just try and turn it around. One of the easiest ways of turning it around it to just do a time audit on your week and find out what is taking up your time.
If you’re like me, you’ll find lots of time to fill with stuff to improve on.
The beautiful thing about obtaining balance in your life is that it creates a synergistic effect which enhances every aspect of your life.
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